Texting has opened up Pandora’s box when it comes to handling relationships in the modern age, and most people need a tune-up in the texting department to get their life on track and maximize their social interactions.

• Get it right, and you’re on the fast track to being more peaceful, more productive, and more powerful.
• Get it wrong, and you’re doomed to be another average onlooker whining about why they’re nowhere in life

Here are the 2 main things that are going to serve as the foundation for your dealings with the phone and every other bit of advice that you will find from me on the matter of texting (and many other things).

1. Focus on Real Life and the Present moment
2. Technology is a tool and medium

When you ingrain these 2 key ideas into your subconscious, your texting and social media habits will improve by default, and you’ll be ripe for maximizing all of the other info I drop about texting.

Let’s take a closer look at each.

1. Focus on real life

Life is the present moment that is going on around you. That is all you will ever have.

Focus your attention there and live it.

If you are more focused with what is going on in your phone than what’s going on around you, then you need to upgrade your life to where you’re not wasting so much time twiddling your thumbs on a backlit screen. It’s that simple.

The sheep will say :

“What’s so bad about texting? Let people do that what they want!”

Lol, go for it. But if you want to live a life worth living, you need to do better.

How much time is spent texting that isn’t leading to concrete results?

How much time are you wasting on your phone that could be spent on making moves that will actually take you places?

Your time on Earth is limited. Here and now is all you have.

Most people spend at LEAST an hour of their day on texting and social media, and that’s 7 hours a week – or almost an entire workday – spent on a device that isn’t yielding 7 hours worth of tangible results.

You do the math.

2. Texting is a Tool. Nothing more.

Because REAL LIFE, RIGHT NOW is what always takes precedence, you should be focused on making texting and social media a simplified, smooth tool that accomplishes what you need it to accomplish with little else. Efficient and clean.

Those things you want it to accomplish are:

1. Handle your info needs/logistics and…
2. Keep lines of communication open

That means stick to making plans and intermittent bouts of conversation to maintain connections when you’re not in person. This can easily be handled in intervals throughout the day – 1,2,3 hours apart or what suits you best.

If more than that is needed, send a damn voice note to get it out or make a phone call.

Your texts should take no more than 15 seconds to send a few times a day to whoever you need to communicate with – all moving towards some designated direction.

On the receiving end

Taking this approach to texting works on the receiving end.

You will begin to see all of messages that you receive in the same way:

1. As distractions from your priorities within the present moment and
2. Things to handle on your own time that serve a distinct purpose

So stop being so available and dependent on a little device for dropping dopamine hits all day. You need to unplug from the drug.

This will make you free, more productive, and also safeguard you from texting turmoil when people try to be manipulative or argue over text. The best offense is a good defense, and you can’t lose if you’re not even showing up to the game.

Being too busy and indifferent is a power play that’ll win you more bounty than alphabetical acrobatics anyday – and for less effort. And staying glued to your phone all day will only increase your mental investment for little payoff with huge risk.

Now, WHY you’re clinging to the phone can be due to habit, boredom, or dependency rooted in insecurity, but no matter what the reason is, get yourself under control.

• Turn it off
• Put it on do not disturb
• Put it across the room
• Turn off all the badge notifications and alerts so you only know when YOU decide to go into the app to check

Essentially, you need to take it back to the 90s and only reach for the phone when there’s an emergency. We’ve been spoiled.

Conclusion

These 2 concepts are key to internalize when it comes to texting.

They’re your foundation that will keep you grounded when it comes time to handling your business and skipping through your text interactions like a field of daisies.

Future articles will dive further into actual text game, so SUBSCRIBE and comment below any questions or struggles you’ve got with texting.

Have a great weekend.

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